Announcement! And work with me!

Have you wanted to work with me but weren’t sure how to get started? Maybe you weren’t even sure what I could do to help you!

Well, this summer I’ve been working very hard to put everything I offer into one cohesive framework so I can serve YOU better.

I am now Tabitha Dumas–Image & Influence Strategist!

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FanTABulous Women will still be a place to talk about image and style but my main hub will be at TabithaDumas.com.

I hope we can stay connected online, too!

I am on Twitter

Pinterest

Facebook and

Instagram, too.

Follow me and I’ll follow you!

And now….here’s what I’m doing now!

Do you want to Elevate Your Image or Expand Your Influence to achieve greater success?

Are you a female entrepreneur, business owner or professional? Do you feel stuck in your marketing efforts? Are you lacking confidence in how you look? Do you want to do more networking? Do you want to establish yourself more as an expert but aren’t sure how?

You may need…

:: a Signature Color or Signature Style

:: a personal mission statement to guide your goals and priorities

:: an editorial calendar for your blog and social media platforms

:: a branding makeover (colors, messages, core message, etc.)

:: a MakeUpdate and color analysis

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Get a MakeUpdate!

 

:: a cohesive, consistent and creative marketing plan

:: guidance on which social media platforms you should use

:: a website re-write

:: creative ideas for how to “put yourself out there”

Or you may need help figuring out WHAT you need! 

Let’s get you noticed and make your unforgettable!

I want to be YOUR personal Image and Influence Strategist and it all starts with a Strategy Session.

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Come to my home studio for your strategy session!

 

Please visit the Work With Me page on TabithaDumas.com to read all the details and use the form to schedule your strategy session. You can also access the form here.

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Create your Vision Board

Check out yesterday’s post if you missed it.

As I talked about yesterday, once you have your Vision Affirmation Statement, let it guide you to help you create a Vision Board.

Take the words, phrases and word pictures you used and find images to go with them and create a board that serves as a visual reminder of your vision.

Here’s my Vision Affirmation Statement: I am living a peaceful and creative life that allows me to blaze trails and teach others by my own experiences. I am attracting more love, joy and authenticity into my own life while bringing inspiration and opportunities for connection to the people around me.

Then I took each set of words or each concept and wrote down some things that came to mind.

  • A peaceful, creative life: tea, a cozy corner, colors.
  • Teaching/trail blazing part: paths, trails, explorers, feet, maps, apples, a classroom.
  • Love, joy and authenticity: hearts, balloons, freedom (the beach).
  • Inspiration and connection: landscapes, light, groups of people, parties.

Do the same with yours and find the images in magazines, online or draw them yourself. Look for words and phrases, too.

I kept my affirmation handy and started going through pictures.

fantabulous women vision board

This collage from House Beautiful inspired me. I wanted a layered look, too, so I started arranging and layering my favorite images.

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And here is my final version!

fantabulous women vision board

The possibilities are endless! Enjoy the process and create something uniquely YOU.

Create your Vision Affirmation Statement

New Year’s resolutions, goals, a word or phrase…there are many options for the how to enter the new year with purpose and clarity. This one has to do with affirming what you want for 2014.

This is an exercise I did as part of a “The Story of Your Life Vision Board” class and I thought it might be useful to anyone looking for an affirmation of their vision for the coming year.

fantabulous women vision board

Vision affirmations are all about stating it as though it is currently true and if you’re not use to affirmations, it may feel awkward at first, but you may grow to like.

So grab a pen and paper and get started!

Vision Affirmation Exercise

Exercise: {write down}

(1) What words describe the kind of life you want?

(2) What do you want people to say about you?

(3) What do you want more of in your life?

(4) What do you offer the people in your circle of influence?

My example:
(1) Peaceful, creative
(2) She was a teacher, she blazed trails
(3) Love, joy, authenticity
(4) inspiration, opportunities to connect

Now, like Mad Libs, use the above to fill in the blanks and draft your Vision Affirmation statement.

I am living a (1) ____ life that allows me to (2) ____. I am attracting more (3) ____ into my own life while bringing (4) ____ to the people around me.

My example: I am living a peaceful and creative life that allows me to blaze trails and teach others by my own experiences. I am attracting more love, joy and authenticity into my own life while bringing inspiration and opportunities for connection to the people around me.

You try it!

Of course you can go back to tweak your answers and give your affirmation better flow and meaning. Have fun with it until it sounds like something you can really believe in.

What do you DO with your Vision Affirmation statement?

  • Print copies to put in places where you can read your affirmation when you need it.
  • Use it to guide your decisions about what to say “yes” and “no” to.
  • Share it with loved one who will help you bring your vision to life.
  • Use it to help you create a Vision Board. Take the words, phrases and word pictures you used and find images to go with them and create a board that serves as a visual reminder of your vision.

Stay tuned! Tomorrow’s post shows you HOW to create your vision board based–and I’ll show you mine!

Do you have other ideas for what to do with your Vision Affirmation Statement?

I hope this helps you!

Do me a favor and let me know if you try it?

Leave a comment or hop on over to the FanTABulous Women Facebook page to share.

Happy New Year and I wish you all the best in 2014!

Want to contribute to my book?

During my Birthday Brainstorming session, my tribe and I concluded that it’s time for me to get published! But…

I want to publish YOUR story! 

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My stories can wait. I want to get YOU published in a FanTABulous Women compilation book! I’m thinking of short stories of about 500 words, submitted by you and edited and curated by me. Let ME get YOU published!

I’m not sure if the book will have one central theme with many different stories that fit the theme…or if the stories will have several themes that emerge as YOU submit them. I believe that will become clear as I begin to collect them–like something of a patchwork quilt.

Let’s get started! 

For now, I’ll be collecting your stories (and eventually a short bio and possibly a picture, too) and see where it goes. Of course I’ll keep you in the loop as the project evolves. I’d like to feature CEOs, stay-at-home moms, grandmas, 20-somethings…anyone with a story to tell and a willingness to “put yourself out there.” Submission guidelines and such will also be a work in progress.

I know some of you have a story in your heart, just waiting to be set free! Some of you may have dozens of stories! Here are some ideas to get you started.

Suggestions:

  • overcoming a challenge
  • getting a new perspective
  • story of a faith journey
  • a funny story of virtually any topic!
  • lessons in motherhood (step mom issues, pregnancy loss, learning to let go, etc.)
  • secrets to business success
  • life taking an unexpected turn
  • lessons in love
  • dealing with loss
  • finding joy
  • so many others!

So! Wanna get published?

Want to be a part of a collaborative effort that results in a digital and hard copy of a beautiful book that you can give to your friends, family and colleagues?

Get on the mailing list! Don’t worry, I will only contact you with pertinent information, deadlines and updates. And the first step doesn’t obligate you to ANYthing. Yes, eventually there will be waivers and such but for now, I just need to know who is interested.

Know someone who might be a good fit for this project, too? Feel free to send them the link to the Book Project Page or share this post on your social media sites.

Expect an email at the first of the year to launch this very special project!

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Announcing some new partnerships

I am celebrating my two-year anniversary with Mary Kay AND my one-year anniversary with “Let Me Rephrase That” this month and VERY excited about what’s to come in 2014!

Changes are in store!

I am now thrilled to be working with three amazing and inspiring female business owners:

:: editor and ghost writer for Linda Stanfield of Benjamin Franklin Plumbing (based in the Phoenix east valley)

:: Content Strategist for Jasmine Holmes of 910 West (a marketing firm based in Gilbert, AZ)

:: Project Manager for Shari Braendel of Fashion Meets Faith (based in Charlotte, NC and pictured with me and my mom, below).

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Supporting these women behind the scenes (and occasionally in front of, too!) is truly a dream come true and fulfills the mission I had when I began this journey two years ago!

You’ll be hearing more about it in the months to come and you’ll see me streamlining my offerings and services so that I can focus more on them and their needs. It’s going to be exciting!, and YOU will benefit, too! 

The #1 Secret to How I Built a Business I Love In Two Years

Two years ago, I came home to the east valley of Phoenix when our little family packed up and moved into my parents’ neighborhood in Chandler, Arizona.

When we relocated, our mortgage payment increased along with our our living expenses. Our sons were ages two and five and quite independent.

My husband affirmed what I had been thinking: It was time for me to find a job.

I had been “working” from home since my first son was six months old, but mostly dabbling in various direct sales companies and even running an Etsy shop for a couple of years.

It was time to get real.

But…I didn’t want to get a “real job” in an office or in a retail store. Having one son still at home during the day, I determined in my heart to become a work-at-home mom. I wanted to create a small business all my own and work from home so I could earn money to help our family while also parenting our sons, managing our home and volunteering within the community…and enjoy every aspect of it.

So I set out to build a business for myself. Boy, oh boy, has it been a journey! 

I am being absolutely vulnerable and authentic when I tell you that only in the last two months or so have I moved past being a “hobbyist” to actually turning a profit.

But I did it all in two years and with virtually zero capital (along with a very supportive and understanding husband by my side and a LOT of help from my parents, friends, extended family and cohorts).

In a way, I wish I had started sooner or could have sped up the process…but looking back, each obstacle, phase and success was another perfectly timed and vitally important step of my journey. I can honestly say that I have no regrets. 

Whether you think building a profitable home-based small business from scratch in two years is impressive or pathetic, if you’re still reading, I bet you’re wondering how I did it.

What’s the secret, you ask? I can summarize it in one word: networking.

 

Anyone who works as their own boss or works on commission knows about the power of networking.

There is a lot of power in the use of marketing and sales strategies, social media, honing your skills, personal development and the myriad of other areas of growth for a young small business—but networking is the one that fuels and propels them all.

See these business cards? They are just a small sampling of the cards I amassed over the last two years.

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I didn’t, however, merely go from meeting to meeting collecting cards! These cards represent hundreds of connections, contacts and resources shared. Many of these cards belong to people that I now call “friend!”

In my opinion, networking is a key component of any small business’s success. It took me two years to build my network to the point that it buoyed a profitable small business.

 

Yes, I’ll be writing more about this topic in the weeks to come and revealing the actual secrets to effective networking. I have a lot to say on this topic! Stay tuned!

What about you? Are you a master networker, a newbie or something in between? What do you want to know?

 

Oops, I Did It Again

Did WHAT again, you ask?

I started a new blog.

That’s not all.

I actually purchased the domain name, too.

I was shocked that no one had snagged it yet! I know my fellow domain purchasing addicts can relate.

I am now the proud owner of…

…drum roll please…

CraftYourStyle.com!!

Crafting? Style?? My two favorite things?!?! COMBINED?!?!

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Well, the truth is, my three favorite things are crafting, style and chocolate but Craft Your Style While Eating Chocolate is a tad unwieldy. 

Anyway, I’m smiling ear to ear tonight as I’m nearly falling out of my desk chair at 12:43am. It’s not just a new blog, of course.

It’s another step toward MY big dream.

Here is what YOU need to know.

I have a LOT of big dreams for FanTABulous Women and for this blog in particular. Maybe not even dreams but a VISION. This was never meant to be my space–it’s supposed to be YOUR space. I’m just getting it going for you.

I want to bring a LOT more women onto my team. Coaches, moms, designers, stylists, consultants, wellness experts…anyone who wants to share their gifts and their wisdom with other women.

I want FanTABulous Women to be a place where women in the Phoenix valley can ban together and combine their passions to help women live a more FanTABulous life!

You know what I’d love? If I could use this space to help women connect and grow…and I could hole up in my craft room, working on Craft Your Style.

This is just the beginning of a lot of fun adventures for ALL of us!

Stay tuned…and hop on over to take a sneak peek!

Craft Your Style blog.

Why I Have a Personal Purpose Statement

NEWSFLASH: I am not busy.

Yes, I have two small children (and busy boys at that).

Yes, I have a husband, a home, hobbies and a social life.

Yes, I have two home-based businesses, multiple social media accounts and five-plus blogs to run.

Yes, I teach a class once a week out of my home studio, using my own curriculum.

Yes, I serve in Marketplace Ministries, am active in the Gilbert Chamber of Commerce and serve at Central Christian Church.

Yes, I volunteer and serve many hours every week.

I also get dressed every day (including makeup and jewelry), pamper myself regularly, craft my own greeting cards, make frequent trips to browse in secondhand stores, cook, clean, read magazines and regularly take my sons on exciting adventures.

BUT…I am not busy. I am living my life according to my personal purpose statement.

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When approached about a new project or opportunity, I will never tell someone that I am ‘too busy’ to do it. I DO tell them that it is not a priority for me right now. I am not too busy to make time for what matters to me (and neither are you).

The fact is, to DO all of the above, I have to NOT do some things.

People have often commented to me: “I don’t know how you do it all.”

NEWSFLASH: I don’t do it all.

I ‘did it all’ back in 2008 and it resulted in resentment, stress and eventually full-blown anxiety and the occasional panic attack. I let the anxiety serve as a wake-up call to purge busyness out of my life and get back to the things that truly matter to me and to the people I love.

That’s when I started living by my personal purpose statement (PPS).

Let me tell you what I DON’T do:

I don’t maintain more than five close female friendships.

I don’t participate in a moms’ group.

I don’t exercise regularly.

I don’t watch more than an hour or so of television per day.

I don’t volunteer in my older son’s classroom.

I don’t send my younger son to preschool.

I don’t entertain regularly.

I don’t attend networking groups.

I don’t schedule meetings and consultations all over town.

I don’t promise regular posts on my blogs.

I don’t travel.

I don’t pay for manicures, pedicures, expensive meals out, an elaborate hair style or trendy clothing (except on very rare occasions).

I don’t have my boys in multiple extracurricular activities.

I don’t drive a fancy car.

I don’t have a fancy phone or a fancy tablet or anything fancy when it comes to electronics (except my three-year-old laptop we won at my husband’s company picnic).

There are a LOT of things I don’t do.

“But wait!” you say. “Some of the things you don’t do are GOOD things!”

Indeed. And yes, I would like to fit in exercise. I’d like to have my son in a Montessori preschool for a few hours during the week. And of course I’d like to get regular manicures and pedicures!

But those things don’t fit into my current season of life, my family budget and/or my personal purpose statement.

Of my personal purpose statement and my life, neither are perfect. But allowing my PPS to guide my activities, priorities and financial goals means that I can live a life of as much balance, peace and joy as this season of life can afford me.

Someday I hope to streamline my administrative duties, hire someone to help me clean the house and be able to write more while I’m on the go so that I CAN find time to volunteer in my son’s classroom, but today is not that day. I am OK with that.

I know what I’m about. I know what I can and should do–and not do. And that is priceless.

To learn more about creating your own personal purpose statement, attend my “Living an authentic life based on your personal mission statement” class OR schedule your one-on-one consultation TODAY!

Check out the details of all of my UPCOMING CLASSES on Facebook here.

RETREAT: Your Personal Mission Statement

My mom and I are trying something new: weekend retreats!

Our first one is set for early November.

THE FORMAT:

Two days IN the valley. 11:00am Saturday, November 3rd to 3:00pm Sunday, November 4th at the charming Indian Springs Ranch Bed & Breakfast in Goodyear, Arizona. Elaine, the inn keeper, is lovely. I had my 30th birthday party at the Ranch and it was a marvelous experience. I’m excited to go back!

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Participants will arrive for lunch then we will have a few afternoon sessions, a Crafternoon, dinner, another session, fun pajama/pampering party and a night devotion before bed.

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Sunday, we’ll start with yoga, walking and breathing then have breakfast together in the B&B dining room.

mission statement retreat indian springs ranch dining room

After that, we’ll have a couple of sessions, lunch, wrap-up and reflection and head home in the afternoon.

We’re trying to mix the learning/thinking/growing component with relaxation, a chance to get our creative juices flowing and just taking the opportunity to get away from the world for a bit and regain our balance.

THE TOPIC:

The title is “Discovering Your Mission: Because to move forward, you have to know where you’ve been and where you’re going.”

Here’s the blurb I wrote for the invitation:

Do you know your personal mission statement? Do you have it displayed somewhere you can see it every day? Do you use your mission statement to help you decide what activities to participate in, what people to surround yourself with, how to spend your money and what boundaries you need to put into place to keep yourself sane?

If not, allow Patricia and Tabitha to guide you on a two-day journey to discovering your personal mission statement and how to use it to make 2013 your best year yet!

Along with practical, hands-on exercises, we’ll help you turn your mission statement into a work of art to display in your home.

Once you have your mission, you’ll wonder how you’ll find the time and space to fulfill it! We’ve got that covered, too. Outside of our Mission Statement Sessions, you’ll have plenty of time to reconnect with God, get creative, pamper yourself, fellowship with other women and even get some exercise! Not only will you have a wonderful time but you’ll discover ways to prioritize your ‘self care’ once you return home, too.

You’ll leave this retreat feeling refreshed, invigorated and ready to live your life with purpose! Won’t you join us? Space is limited, register soon!

COST:

$150 includes accommodations, meals, materials and goodies. Your payment secures your spot. Only SEVEN spots are available!

Family and friends are welcome, too. If you’d like to cut your cost a little, you can share a queen or kind-size bed.

For more details and information, e-mail me at letmerephrasethat(at)gmail(dot)com.

If you can’t make it to this one but want to receive the information for the next one, e-mail me!

Staying True to Your Vision

Do you ever get stuck on something and can’t seem to let it go? Maybe it’s a vision of the future, a dream, a wish or an experience you hope to have. You get the idea and are tempted to just ‘get over it’ when it doesn’t happen, but it won’t go away.

That happened to me with this day bed from IKEA. I had my eye on it since at least September 2009 when I was dreaming of my future craft room in this post on my old blog. I saw it as more of sofa for me to lounge on and a comfy place for people to chill out during all-day craft-a-thons.

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When we toured our current home almost a year ago (pictured below), I took one look at the bonus room in the front of the house (complete with tall double doors, right off the entryway) and said, “This is going to be MY room.” It was a playroom at the time but I saw the potential.

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At the time, I envisioned it as a craft room and a place to have some ‘girl time’ away from my rambunctious boys. A few months in, I was holding color consultations in there, too, and my boys had the back half of the room to themselves and sat on my daybed (MY daybed) to watch TV and play X-box. Their area is hidden behind the screen.

fantabulous craft room studio

Then I started my Mary Kay business and began using the studio to organize my inventory and hold skin care consultations. It’s a little hard to give someone a facial on a daybed. Plus my business started booming and I didn’t want kids in (what had become) my office. We even moved The Big Desk into the room and moved the boys OUT.

Tab's studio office after

But my vision persisted. I still wanted to meet with women on my daybed. I couldn’t let it go.

A few months ago, I got the idea for FanTABulous Women and I big part of that vision was meeting with women to talk about their needs and how we could help each other. I clung to my vision of having a ‘business meeting’ on my daybed even while I debated about moving it out of the room to free up the space. “Is anyone going to actually WANT to sit on it with me??” I wondered.

Then yesterday, I had a ‘meeting of the minds’ with one of my business partners who is a wellness expert (you will be hearing more about her and her offerings soon) and invited her into my studio. She moved toward the daybed and I told her, “You can sit wherever you want to.”

“Oh, I want to sit on your daybed, it looks so inviting.”

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I felt my heart sigh a little. Then it got better.

She started to take off her sandals and I told her, “Oh, you don’t have to take off your shoes in here, the floor isn’t THAT clean,” and she replied, “Actually, I was thinking about sitting back and putting my feet up on the bed.”

I was thrilled.

We spent about the next hour-and-a-half both lounging barefoot on the daybed, talking, laughing and planning together.

She commented, “All business meetings should be like this.”
It felt a lot more like a slumber party than a business meeting. I loved it.

I am so glad that I didn’t abandon my vision. That meeting on my daybed was just a little affirmation that I am right where I belong.

What vision do YOU have that you can’t seem to shake, but hasn’t been brought to fruition yet? What’s holding you back? How can we help you? Please leave a comment and tell us.

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