Announcement! And work with me!

Have you wanted to work with me but weren’t sure how to get started? Maybe you weren’t even sure what I could do to help you!

Well, this summer I’ve been working very hard to put everything I offer into one cohesive framework so I can serve YOU better.

I am now Tabitha Dumas–Image & Influence Strategist!

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FanTABulous Women will still be a place to talk about image and style but my main hub will be at TabithaDumas.com.

I hope we can stay connected online, too!

I am on Twitter

Pinterest

Facebook and

Instagram, too.

Follow me and I’ll follow you!

And now….here’s what I’m doing now!

Do you want to Elevate Your Image or Expand Your Influence to achieve greater success?

Are you a female entrepreneur, business owner or professional? Do you feel stuck in your marketing efforts? Are you lacking confidence in how you look? Do you want to do more networking? Do you want to establish yourself more as an expert but aren’t sure how?

You may need…

:: a Signature Color or Signature Style

:: a personal mission statement to guide your goals and priorities

:: an editorial calendar for your blog and social media platforms

:: a branding makeover (colors, messages, core message, etc.)

:: a MakeUpdate and color analysis

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Get a MakeUpdate!

 

:: a cohesive, consistent and creative marketing plan

:: guidance on which social media platforms you should use

:: a website re-write

:: creative ideas for how to “put yourself out there”

Or you may need help figuring out WHAT you need! 

Let’s get you noticed and make your unforgettable!

I want to be YOUR personal Image and Influence Strategist and it all starts with a Strategy Session.

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Come to my home studio for your strategy session!

 

Please visit the Work With Me page on TabithaDumas.com to read all the details and use the form to schedule your strategy session. You can also access the form here.

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Slow Down #2–get moving!

Yesterday was a typical Monday of school drop-offs and pick-ups, a morning meeting, lunch, projects, writing, emailing, homework, dinner…and by evening all I wanted was a big, fresh salad and a chance to sit down.

But my phone rang.

“Wanna go for a walk? It’s beautiful outside!” my mother enticed me.

I didn’t hesitate for long. I am, after all, trying to slow down this month. 

“Honey? I’m going for a walk!” I hollered to my husband.

So I laced up my walking shoes, put my jacket on and met my mom at the park between our houses and we set off for a brisk half-hour walk as the sun went down. “I’m so glad to have a walking buddy!” she told me.

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The sky was brilliant. First it was pink and orange then eventually turned to an inky blue. The moon was what we call a “fingernail moon” and by the time I got back to my block the stars were coming out.

“I feel sorry for the people missing this,” I thought as I grinned up at the sky.

Then I realized that I am usually the one missing it. We miss a lot when we’re always rushing about, going from one activity to the next and never slowing down, don’t we?

I’m a “mover and shaker” but I almost never work out or even take leisurely walks–I tend to go full tilt then collapse. But, man, the fresh air, the tingling in my legs, the birds chirping and kids squealing, the scent of barbecue meat in the air…it was glorious. I need more of that in my life.

It felt good to move my body and get my heart rate up. It was nice to see the sky from a new perspective. The time chatting with my mom was a definite bonus, too. I’m so glad I didn’t tell her, “I’m too tired,” or “I have too much to do,” or “I just want to stay home.” I want to arrange my life so that, when the opportunity arises, I can always seize the chance to get out and catch my breath–even if it leaves me breathless.  

Slow Down Lesson #2: Sometimes slowing down means putting on your walking shoes and getting a move on!

How about you? Do you need to “get a move on” in order to slow down? Leave a comment or hop on over to the FanTABulous Women Facebook page to keep the conversation going.

Slow Down in March

Does your life feel a bit go-go-go with very little downtime?

Do you struggle to live in the moment?

Do you tend to feel restless if you’re not being productive?

Do you have to WORK at resting?

For me, that’s “yes” x 4.

I have grown a lot in this area but it’s something I continually have to improve on. I need a lot of time for R&R: “Resting & Receiving.” I have to make an effort to rest my body and receive God’s love, whether for it’s a few minutes every day or most of one entire day.

In fact, that’s why my word for 2014 is “beloved.” I have to set aside time to “be-loved.”

So much so that I was thinking about blogging about slowing down in March…when today happened.

What happened today?

Well, #1 it rained. 

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Our first rainy day in Phoenix in 70 days!

 

Blame it on the barometric pressure, an overly greasy breakfast or even hormones but…

#2, I felt “off” for most of the day. My ears were buzzing, my stomach was upset, my nerves felt frayed, my body felt weak…and I basically surfed the Internet, drank a lot of “Nourish Me” tea and shuffled around the house all day.

I felt restless in the afternoon so…

#3, I did some crafting. It was a nice way to pass the time and not spend it wondering if I was coming down with something. I got lost in what I was doing and enjoyed the cutting and pasting and color-coordinating. I sipped my tea while I worked and enjoyed the quiet company of my husband, too, along with the rain falling outside the window.

It was so relaxing.

Now I have cards on hand to personalize and send out.

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Cards ready to be stamped with the recipient’s initial.

 

And around 6:00pm as I was (slowly) bringing another pot of  ”Calming” tea to my craft table…

#4, I realized that I had slowed down today. On March 1st. So I knew I had something to blog about in March.

Here I was, wondering if I should consider slowing down in March and inspiring you to do the same and I found myself actually DOING it–and not even on purpose!

I can tell you that taking the day off to just take care of myself, do the things I enjoy and listen to my body was a welcome relief.

If I hadn’t felt crummy, I’d have finished cleaning out my boys’ bedroom, caught up on laundry, gone to the store, cleaned or who knows what else (and probably would have run myself ragged in the process!)–but I wouldn’t have just sipped tea, shuffled around and crafted! I wish I did that more often of my own accord but I don’t.

I needed a day to rest and I’m glad I took it.

SLOW DOWN Lesson #1: Listen to your body. When you feel like you need to take a day off–do it! Or…take a day off BEFORE you need it! 

I think the Slow Down topic is meant to be, so I wonder if you need to slow down, too?

Tell me…when was the last time you took it easy on yourself for an entire day? Could you use a day to just slow down and rest? Leave a comment or hop on over the to FanTABulous Women Facebook page to keep the conversation going.

 

Creative Connections event was a blast!

If you’re the “self-employed woman entrepreneur” type, there is someone you need to meet.

Here’s the story. Fellow writer and my dear friend Anne of McAuley Freelance Writing had been talking about someone called “Coach Erin” for a while. I eventually looked her up on Facebook, then Instagram and quickly realized that Erin is “my people.”

When I heard about her upcoming Quarterly Creative Connections event on February 20th, I knew I HAD to go.

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From Erin’s website

 

The description (from EcoachErin.com) says it is “about making connections and getting inspired.  Each event focuses on you getting to know the other women in attendance on a personal and professional level, connecting with those you can create collaborative marketing and joint ventures with, sharing referrals and inspiring you to create more momentum in your business.”

It was that and so much more! Erin’s activities and exercises were fun, thought-provoking and effective and she even offered a small dose of “coaching” along the way! I learned new things about myself, got to know the women in the room in  a new and unique way and truly enjoyed my time there. It was refreshing and inspiring!

One of the activities involved creating a “billboard” for what we do in our business–this is Anne and me sporting ours!

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Rather than giving a commercial, we had to silently move around the room and let the other ladies read our billboards–it was a hoot! (I told you it was fun and unique!)

I can’t say enough good things about Erin and this event and I am already looking forward to the next one! 

Find out more about the event here. The next one is Thursday, May 22 and I’ve love to see you there!

Erin is adorable, delightful and knows her stuff! I am so glad she is a part of my world. I hope you’ll find her on her website, on Facebook or on Pinterest and PLEASE tell her that Tabitha sent you!

P.S. I have a phone call schedule with Erin tomorrow and hopefully a forth-coming coaching session–I’ll keep you posted!

Artists’ Retreat to Globe, Arizona

Yes, I’m planning an Artists’ Retreat for May, 2014!

Consider this post your “teaser.”

First of all, this (to me) is an artist:

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Not sure if you qualify?

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I’m willing to bet that you’re an artist. Whether you paint paintings, run a small business, painstakingly choose your outfits every day, decorate your home or dream of someday “living your art,” art is in you and around you and you are an artist.

The premise is that artists need an opportunity to…

  • practice their craft
  • spend time with other artists
  • learn about other art forms
  • get away, gain a new perspective and rest
  • experience new sites, sounds and people to be inspired and invigorated!

This will be a two-day retreat just two hours east of Phoenix in the charming and historic town of Globe, Arizona. 

This one is for female artists only and is slotted for Saturday and Sunday, May 3 and 4 at the Chrysocolla Inn in Globe, Arizona.

There will be options for those who would just like to attend the Saturday conference as well as those who wish to stay overnight.

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The Chrysocolla Inn, Globe, Arizona.

 I am planning the schedule, special guests, field trips and so much more but for now, here are a few things we have in the works! 

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Yoga in the garden.

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Brainstorming sessions around this massive table overlooking the garden.

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Opportunities to practice your art.

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Exploring Globe (this is the view from the Inn’s balcony).

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Beautifully appointed rooms with private baths with clawfoot tubs. This room overlooks the garden!

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Exquisite food.

 

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The Chrysocolla Inn is so charming–even the building itself is inspiring!

  I hope this entices you! I will sending out pricing information along with how to register, what to expect and so much more in the months to come.

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My status update to the world: Shut up!

Feeling overwhelmed and wondering how you can avoid becoming crippled under the weight of everyone’s competing expectations? “Join the club!” right?

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Literally buried.

You know how it is. The never-ending influx of competing information and conflicting advice, whether in your own head, online, in books, in your email in-box or in real life conversations.

Add more veggies to your diet. Don’t eat baby carrots—they’re just bad carrots shredded up and reconstituted. Oh, and watch out for contaminated spinach!

Kids have too many toys these days. What’s a birthday party without new toys???

Aim for getting in 10,000 steps every day. Organize your home according to specific tasks to cut down on wandering around in search of various items. Save time by accomplishing as many of your errands as possible in a limited area.

Take these supplements, cut caffeine and start a running and weight lifting regime. Supplements may or may not make a difference, coffee is good for you and regular gentle walks and yoga are your best bet.

I’m so tired of going on Facebook just to hear about whose kids are sick, who’s working out and what you’re eating for dinner. I’m so tired of going on Facebook just to see jokes, political commentary or pictures of cats. You don’t post enough personal stuff on Facebook…OR You post on Facebook too much.

Then it can get even more personal.

People assume that you’re a hippie because you breastfeed and let your kids sleep with you or that you’re a total “mainstreamer” because you bribe them with candy and put them in public school when neither title is entirely accurate.

One neighbor gives you dirty looks because you let the neighborhood kids congregate on your front lawn while another neighbor thinks you’re a snob because you don’t let her kid come inside to play anymore.

You’re expected to be the family travel agent, photographer, social media expert, peace keeper and event planner and then your family wonders why their thank-you notes are late (or nonexistent) and why you don’t have more time to spend on your housekeeping duties.

It never ends.

Dress sexier to keep the romance alive. Dress modestly to avoid tempting the opposite sex.

Relax! Get moving!

Take time for yourself! Take time to help other people!

Save money! Treat yourself to something new!

Travel more! Stay home more!

Aaaaaahhhhhhh!!!!! Just writing this list makes me want to jump out the window!

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Aaaaaahhh!!

Ever feel like you just can’t win?

I have learned to mostly keep my opinion to myself but there are days when I want to send a status update to the universe that just says, “Shut up, shut up, SHUT UP!”

I can’t be the only person left wanting to say, “Really?!?!” and bang my head into the wall. Is it any wonder that substance abuse is such a rampant problem?!

No woman can do it all, or be all things to all people. It’s one of the FanTABulous Women tenets: “Embrace the fact that no woman can ‘do it all.’” It goes perfectly with another tenet: “Celebrate what you’re good at and accept help when you need it.”

There are too many demands, too many competing opinions, too many people advising you according to their own agenda and too many voices in your ear to appease them all.

Even on my best day, I manage to walk out the door without my phone and end up broken down on the side of the road and hitching a ride home from a stranger. Yes, that happened a few months ago at 9:30pm after a long conference call and my phone battery was dead. I just needed peanut butter to make sandwiches for my son’s lunch the next day and should have been there and back in fifteen minutes.

My mom quizzed me on the lesson I learned from the experience.

“What?” I asked, rather than guessing. If I had guessed, it would have probably been “Stay home.”

She said, “You need to get a car phone charger.”

Oh, that. I’ll get right on that. Hmm, let’s see….yes, that is now #1,847 out of 3,922. Excellent.

So. What to do. For me, there are a few techniques that help me avoid resorting to taking up drinking or throwing in the towel altogether. I’ll be sharing them in the days to come because #1, I love sharing my experiences with others in the hopes that it will help them and #2, I believe this is a worthwhile discussion to have.

Do you struggle with this? Do you ever feel like you just can’t win? Do you need some new ideas for what to do when you just want to tell the world to “shut up?” Stay tuned…and hop on over to the FanTABulous Women Facebook page to keep the conversation going!

Create your Vision Board

Check out yesterday’s post if you missed it.

As I talked about yesterday, once you have your Vision Affirmation Statement, let it guide you to help you create a Vision Board.

Take the words, phrases and word pictures you used and find images to go with them and create a board that serves as a visual reminder of your vision.

Here’s my Vision Affirmation Statement: I am living a peaceful and creative life that allows me to blaze trails and teach others by my own experiences. I am attracting more love, joy and authenticity into my own life while bringing inspiration and opportunities for connection to the people around me.

Then I took each set of words or each concept and wrote down some things that came to mind.

  • A peaceful, creative life: tea, a cozy corner, colors.
  • Teaching/trail blazing part: paths, trails, explorers, feet, maps, apples, a classroom.
  • Love, joy and authenticity: hearts, balloons, freedom (the beach).
  • Inspiration and connection: landscapes, light, groups of people, parties.

Do the same with yours and find the images in magazines, online or draw them yourself. Look for words and phrases, too.

I kept my affirmation handy and started going through pictures.

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This collage from House Beautiful inspired me. I wanted a layered look, too, so I started arranging and layering my favorite images.

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And here is my final version!

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The possibilities are endless! Enjoy the process and create something uniquely YOU.

Create your Vision Affirmation Statement

New Year’s resolutions, goals, a word or phrase…there are many options for the how to enter the new year with purpose and clarity. This one has to do with affirming what you want for 2014.

This is an exercise I did as part of a “The Story of Your Life Vision Board” class and I thought it might be useful to anyone looking for an affirmation of their vision for the coming year.

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Vision affirmations are all about stating it as though it is currently true and if you’re not use to affirmations, it may feel awkward at first, but you may grow to like.

So grab a pen and paper and get started!

Vision Affirmation Exercise

Exercise: {write down}

(1) What words describe the kind of life you want?

(2) What do you want people to say about you?

(3) What do you want more of in your life?

(4) What do you offer the people in your circle of influence?

My example:
(1) Peaceful, creative
(2) She was a teacher, she blazed trails
(3) Love, joy, authenticity
(4) inspiration, opportunities to connect

Now, like Mad Libs, use the above to fill in the blanks and draft your Vision Affirmation statement.

I am living a (1) ____ life that allows me to (2) ____. I am attracting more (3) ____ into my own life while bringing (4) ____ to the people around me.

My example: I am living a peaceful and creative life that allows me to blaze trails and teach others by my own experiences. I am attracting more love, joy and authenticity into my own life while bringing inspiration and opportunities for connection to the people around me.

You try it!

Of course you can go back to tweak your answers and give your affirmation better flow and meaning. Have fun with it until it sounds like something you can really believe in.

What do you DO with your Vision Affirmation statement?

  • Print copies to put in places where you can read your affirmation when you need it.
  • Use it to guide your decisions about what to say “yes” and “no” to.
  • Share it with loved one who will help you bring your vision to life.
  • Use it to help you create a Vision Board. Take the words, phrases and word pictures you used and find images to go with them and create a board that serves as a visual reminder of your vision.

Stay tuned! Tomorrow’s post shows you HOW to create your vision board based–and I’ll show you mine!

Do you have other ideas for what to do with your Vision Affirmation Statement?

I hope this helps you!

Do me a favor and let me know if you try it?

Leave a comment or hop on over to the FanTABulous Women Facebook page to share.

Happy New Year and I wish you all the best in 2014!

Want to contribute to my book?

During my Birthday Brainstorming session, my tribe and I concluded that it’s time for me to get published! But…

I want to publish YOUR story! 

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My stories can wait. I want to get YOU published in a FanTABulous Women compilation book! I’m thinking of short stories of about 500 words, submitted by you and edited and curated by me. Let ME get YOU published!

I’m not sure if the book will have one central theme with many different stories that fit the theme…or if the stories will have several themes that emerge as YOU submit them. I believe that will become clear as I begin to collect them–like something of a patchwork quilt.

Let’s get started! 

For now, I’ll be collecting your stories (and eventually a short bio and possibly a picture, too) and see where it goes. Of course I’ll keep you in the loop as the project evolves. I’d like to feature CEOs, stay-at-home moms, grandmas, 20-somethings…anyone with a story to tell and a willingness to “put yourself out there.” Submission guidelines and such will also be a work in progress.

I know some of you have a story in your heart, just waiting to be set free! Some of you may have dozens of stories! Here are some ideas to get you started.

Suggestions:

  • overcoming a challenge
  • getting a new perspective
  • story of a faith journey
  • a funny story of virtually any topic!
  • lessons in motherhood (step mom issues, pregnancy loss, learning to let go, etc.)
  • secrets to business success
  • life taking an unexpected turn
  • lessons in love
  • dealing with loss
  • finding joy
  • so many others!

So! Wanna get published?

Want to be a part of a collaborative effort that results in a digital and hard copy of a beautiful book that you can give to your friends, family and colleagues?

Get on the mailing list! Don’t worry, I will only contact you with pertinent information, deadlines and updates. And the first step doesn’t obligate you to ANYthing. Yes, eventually there will be waivers and such but for now, I just need to know who is interested.

Know someone who might be a good fit for this project, too? Feel free to send them the link to the Book Project Page or share this post on your social media sites.

Expect an email at the first of the year to launch this very special project!

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Announcing some new partnerships

I am celebrating my two-year anniversary with Mary Kay AND my one-year anniversary with “Let Me Rephrase That” this month and VERY excited about what’s to come in 2014!

Changes are in store!

I am now thrilled to be working with three amazing and inspiring female business owners:

:: editor and ghost writer for Linda Stanfield of Benjamin Franklin Plumbing (based in the Phoenix east valley)

:: Content Strategist for Jasmine Holmes of 910 West (a marketing firm based in Gilbert, AZ)

:: Project Manager for Shari Braendel of Fashion Meets Faith (based in Charlotte, NC and pictured with me and my mom, below).

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Supporting these women behind the scenes (and occasionally in front of, too!) is truly a dream come true and fulfills the mission I had when I began this journey two years ago!

You’ll be hearing more about it in the months to come and you’ll see me streamlining my offerings and services so that I can focus more on them and their needs. It’s going to be exciting!, and YOU will benefit, too! 

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