Why I Have a Personal Purpose Statement

NEWSFLASH: I am not busy.

Yes, I have two small children (and busy boys at that).

Yes, I have a husband, a home, hobbies and a social life.

Yes, I have two home-based businesses, multiple social media accounts and five-plus blogs to run.

Yes, I teach a class once a week out of my home studio, using my own curriculum.

Yes, I serve in Marketplace Ministries, am active in the Gilbert Chamber of Commerce and serve at Central Christian Church.

Yes, I volunteer and serve many hours every week.

I also get dressed every day (including makeup and jewelry), pamper myself regularly, craft my own greeting cards, make frequent trips to browse in secondhand stores, cook, clean, read magazines and regularly take my sons on exciting adventures.

BUT…I am not busy. I am living my life according to my personal purpose statement.

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When approached about a new project or opportunity, I will never tell someone that I am ‘too busy’ to do it. I DO tell them that it is not a priority for me right now. I am not too busy to make time for what matters to me (and neither are you).

The fact is, to DO all of the above, I have to NOT do some things.

People have often commented to me: “I don’t know how you do it all.”

NEWSFLASH: I don’t do it all.

I ‘did it all’ back in 2008 and it resulted in resentment, stress and eventually full-blown anxiety and the occasional panic attack. I let the anxiety serve as a wake-up call to purge busyness out of my life and get back to the things that truly matter to me and to the people I love.

That’s when I started living by my personal purpose statement (PPS).

Let me tell you what I DON’T do:

I don’t maintain more than five close female friendships.

I don’t participate in a moms’ group.

I don’t exercise regularly.

I don’t watch more than an hour or so of television per day.

I don’t volunteer in my older son’s classroom.

I don’t send my younger son to preschool.

I don’t entertain regularly.

I don’t attend networking groups.

I don’t schedule meetings and consultations all over town.

I don’t promise regular posts on my blogs.

I don’t travel.

I don’t pay for manicures, pedicures, expensive meals out, an elaborate hair style or trendy clothing (except on very rare occasions).

I don’t have my boys in multiple extracurricular activities.

I don’t drive a fancy car.

I don’t have a fancy phone or a fancy tablet or anything fancy when it comes to electronics (except my three-year-old laptop we won at my husband’s company picnic).

There are a LOT of things I don’t do.

“But wait!” you say. “Some of the things you don’t do are GOOD things!”

Indeed. And yes, I would like to fit in exercise. I’d like to have my son in a Montessori preschool for a few hours during the week. And of course I’d like to get regular manicures and pedicures!

But those things don’t fit into my current season of life, my family budget and/or my personal purpose statement.

Of my personal purpose statement and my life, neither are perfect. But allowing my PPS to guide my activities, priorities and financial goals means that I can live a life of as much balance, peace and joy as this season of life can afford me.

Someday I hope to streamline my administrative duties, hire someone to help me clean the house and be able to write more while I’m on the go so that I CAN find time to volunteer in my son’s classroom, but today is not that day. I am OK with that.

I know what I’m about. I know what I can and should do–and not do. And that is priceless.

To learn more about creating your own personal purpose statement, attend my “Living an authentic life based on your personal mission statement” class OR schedule your one-on-one consultation TODAY!

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About Tabitha

I am the one woman show behind FanTABulous Women. God is #1 in my life. I am a wife of twelve years, mother of two sons, purveyor of pretty and agent of encouragement. I am also a writer, dreamer, blogger and go-getter. I am happiest when I'm "putting myself out there" and inspiring others to do the same--in their own unique way. To pick my brain or schedule a consultation, call or text (602) 349-1129 or email letmerephrasethat(at)gmail.com


  1. Great post!

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